We all eventually have to grow up sometime, well... most of us anyway, lol. However, we can't all grow up to be what our "parents" or "friends" expect us to be... We have to find our own way, and walk our own path. My tribe has a saying, that a person is born twice in a lifetime. The first is when we are born into this world. This is the person who we are... our core, our soul, the very essence that makes us unique. Then through our own unique experiences in life, we are born into the person we are destined to be.
It's already hard enough to be ourselves, specially in today's society. Let alone to discover who we want to be... or who we are